All posts by Jennifer L.W. Fink

126: Helping Teachers Understand Boys



A listener asked us, “How do you gently encourage/educate your boy’s teacher on what boys need and how to help them, rather than shame them, when they have gone into anger?” The short answer: It ain’t easy, but it’s so, so worth it! Many teachers know very little about the specific developmental trajectory and needs … Continue reading 126: Helping Teachers Understand Boys


125: Anxiety & Depression in Boys



  1 in 2 children will develop a mood or behavioral disorder or substance addiction by age 18.  We parents like to think that if we “do everything right,” our kids will be mentally and physically healthy with nary a care in the world. But that’s not the case. The truth is that mental health … Continue reading 125: Anxiety & Depression in Boys


123: The Good News About Bad Behavior with Katherine Reynolds Lewis



  If your kids always do what they’re told, consistently treat others with kindness and never over-react to unintended slights, you can skip this episode. If not — WELCOME! Your child is 100% normal, and you’re going to love this conversation with Jen, Janet and Katherine Reynolds Lewis, author of The Good News About Bad … Continue reading 123: The Good News About Bad Behavior with Katherine Reynolds Lewis


122: Co-Parenting with Brandie Weikle



The word co-parenting is typically associated with divorce, but maybe it’s time to change that association. After all, the term refers to shared responsibility for parenting. In the world of divorce, it means that both parents share responsibility for big decisions (like healthcare and education), and both parents share the mundane, day-to-day responsibilities of parenting, … Continue reading 122: Co-Parenting with Brandie Weikle


120: Hygiene Help for Tween & Teen Boys



Have a boy who hates to shower? You are not alone! When a mom recently asked the Building Boys Facebook group, “Anyone else have a teenage boy who hates to shower?” she was quickly inundated with support and sympathy. Personal hygiene, it seems, is not a priority for most tween and teen boys. Lots of … Continue reading 120: Hygiene Help for Tween & Teen Boys


118: Business Tips from a 12-Year-Old Entrepreneur



Boys can learn a lot by starting and running a business. Jen’s youngest son, Sam, bought his older brother’s lawn business two years ago, when the older brother moved to Tennessee (where he has since started another lawn care service). At age 12, Sam has a roster of 18 clients. He cuts and trims lawns … Continue reading 118: Business Tips from a 12-Year-Old Entrepreneur


117: Summer Jobs



Does your son have a summer job? Most boys don’t. In 1978, 60% of teens had summer jobs; today, that number hovers between 35 and 40%. Boys today are more likely to spend their days playing sports, brushing up on academics and traveling with family or as part of mission teams. (And playing Fortnite.) Years … Continue reading 117: Summer Jobs


110: Talk to Boys about Sex with Amy Lang



Amy Lang is a sex educator — and the mom of a teenage boy who is utterly mortified by his mom’s career. If anyone understands just how awkward talking about sex with your son can be — and how important it is to push through despite your the discomfort — it’s Amy.   Amy is … Continue reading 110: Talk to Boys about Sex with Amy Lang


109: Gun Play and Boys



Is Gun Play Really Okay? A generation ago, gun play was an acceptable part of childhood. Parents gave their kids toy guns as gifts — yes, even Red Ryder BB guns! (and yes, that’s A Christmas Story reference) — and boys regularly played Cops and Robbers and War both at school and in the neighborhood. Today, … Continue reading 109: Gun Play and Boys


105: Masculinity in the Age of #MeToo



What is masculinity? It’s a question that’s not easy to answer. But it’s an important one for parents and educators of boys to tackle because the primary question for all boys, is “What is it to be a man?” In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss: So-called “toxic masculinity” & the idea that boys are … Continue reading 105: Masculinity in the Age of #MeToo