Unlocking Motivation: How to Help Your Son Find His Spark

Is your son pulling away, shutting down, or showing little interest in school or chores?

You’re not alone — and there is a way forward.

In this third episode of our special 3-part ON BOYS series, we focus on how to foster intrinsic (inner) motivation in boys. Because yes, it’s in there — even when it feels completely buried.

We’ll help you understand the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, and why both matter. You’ll hear real-world examples from our own lives and families, plus honest talk about what doesn’t work. (Spoiler: there’s no magic phrase that makes a boy suddenly say, “Sure, I’d love to do my homework!”).

Takeaways:

Inner motivation is the key to lasting engagement.
External rewards (ice cream, screen time, earrings!) can work in the short term — even for adults.
Understanding your son’s developmental stage helps you support him more effectively.
Motivation-building strategies will look different for each child — even within the same family.
Parents can boost motivation by aligning with boys’ goals and interests.

This episode is part of our lead-up to the Boost Boys’ Motivation interactive class:
3 live sessions in May 2025 with real-time Q&A, strategies, support & community.