Amy Lang on How to Keep Boys Safe Online

Amy Lang is our go-to sex ed expert.

She’s a mom of a son and she’s not afraid to talk frankly about sex, pornography, relationships and consent.

Our January 2021 conversation with Amy — all about how keep boys safe online — was so enlightening and informative that we’ve decided to run it again. Some gems:

“All the research shows that parents are the most important influence when it comes to sexual decision-making. If we don’t get in the door early, our impact is less. It’s really important to establish yourself as their go-to person.”


“I think it’s way more important to be sexually savvy and to understand healthy relationships than to score a 9000 on the PSAT.”

In this episode, Jen, Janet & Amy discuss:
  • Why you need to talk to your boys about sex a lot sooner than you think
  • How boys accidently encounter porn
  • Setting the stage to talk about sex
  • Does talking to boys about porn encourage them to seek it out?
  • Establishing family guidelines re internet usage
  • The difference between parental controls and monitoring (and how to use each)
  • How porn affects boys
  • Preparing boys for porn exposure
  • Helping boys resist peer pressure to look at porn
  • Keeping boys safe online
Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:

Talk to Boys about Sex (w Amy Lang) – ON BOYS episode  — Amy’s website

The Birds & Bees Solution Center for Parents — use coupon code ONBOYS to save 15%

Just Say This! – Amy’s podcast

Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids: A Guide to Sharing Your Beliefs about Sexuality, Love and Relationships, by Amy Lang

BREAKTHROUGH session w Janet