How to Have a Kid and a Life

Yes, it’s possible to have a kid and a life.

A life beyond babies, boys, and ballgames. A life that includes your hopes, dreams, and passions.

It’s normal (and healthy) for your career, marriage, and friendships to shift and evolve when you become a parent. But you don’t have to give your all to parenting. It’s okay (and healthy!) to reserve some time and energy for yourself.

“As my son got older, all of my activities centered around what he did,” says Ericka Souter, a journalist and author of How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide. “I realized that I was drowning in kid activities and I was unhappy about that. I felt like I needed to do something for myself.”

That urge led her to interview other moms and begin writing her book. Reporting, researching, traveling and talking to others helped Erika feel whole again.

Of course, it’s not easy to make time for yourself amidst the demands of family life. So, you’ll have to let go of things that don’t serve you.

“You have to give yourself permission to let go of people and activities that don’t make you feel good,” Ericka says.

In this episode, Jen, Janet & Ericka discuss:
  • The “mom gene”
  • Making time for personal passions
  • How to make mom friends
  • Advocating for yourself
  • Why taking time for yourself is good for your kids
  • Taking back ownership of your body
  • Prioritizing time with your partner
Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:

How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide — Ericka’s book — Ericka’s website

Discovery of the “Mom Gene” May Explain Why Some of Us Don’t Crave Having Kids — article by Ericka (mentioned at 6:45)

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