Sex Ed for Neurodiverse Kids

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Neurodiverse kids need comprehensive sex education too.

“It’s a fundamental human right to have this information – & so important to their health & safety,” says Amy Lang, creator of Birds + Bees + Kids, a fantastic resource for parents, childcare providers and educators.

Myths About Neurodiversity & Sexuality

Many people (including well-meaning parents) believe one (or more) myths about neurodiversity & sexuality, Amy says. Common myths include:

  1. Neurodiverse people are either asexual or hypersexual. So, parents and educators may gloss over (or skip) essential education. “There’s this myth that neurodiverse kids don’t need this information, that it’s not going to be relevant to them,” Amy says. But that’s not at all true. All humans have a relationship with sexuality. All humans need to know how bodies work. And all humans need to know how to be in healthy, loving relationships.
  2. Neurodiverse people are “innocent” – & so won’t get in any “trouble.” The truth is that neurodiverse people are at high risk of sexual abuse. They may also unintentionally sexually offend or abuse others if they are not properly educated.

“Sexuality is a huge part of life,” Amy says. Ignoring this aspect of life increases the likelihood for harm — and decrease the chances of your child experiencing safe, fulfilling relationships. Knowledge empowers kids so they can live full lives.

Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:

The Porn Talk Dynamic Duo! A live talk with tons of Q&A! The Porn Talk Info Kit (which has everything you need to talk with your boy like a pro) is included.  Sign up here.

Sex Talks with Tweens: What to Say & How to Say It It’s all scripts so you don’t have to figure out what to say! Woot!  — Amy’s website

Just Say This – Amy’s advice-column style podcast

Books for developmentally different kids are here.

Talk to Boys about Sex (w Amy Lang) – ON BOYS episode

Amy Lang on How to Keep Boys Safe Online — ON BOYS episode

ADHD with Ryan Wexelblatt the ADHD Dude — ON BOYS episode

Differently Wired Boys & TiLT Parenting (w Debbie Reber) — ON BOYS episode

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