Raising Kids to Thrive in a Connected World with Jordan Shapiro

Janet & Jen had very different reactions to The New Childhood: Raising Children to Thrive in a Connected World, by author and educator Jordan Shapiro. Jen loved it. Janet has some, uh, questions. And concerns. So, we decided to talk to the author.

Jordan was happy to talk with us. He’s an assistant professor at Temple University who specializes in game-based learning, digital play and screens. As a senior fellow for the Joan Ganz Cooney Center at Sesame Workshop,  he coordinates research and advocacy around digital technology and playful education. He’s also a dad of two boys, ages 11 and 13, so his knowledge of screens and digital play is more than academic. Like all 21st century parents, he grapples with technology and parenting every single day.

Our society, he says, is changing. The digital age is here, and interconnected technology is changing everything — how we work, relate, socialize, play, learn and plan. The pace of change has been fast and furious, and as a result, a lot of adults are feeling overwhelmed and somewhat fearful. But fear of technological and societal shifts won’t help us teach our children to use the tools of the digital age in intentional, ethical and moral ways. To effectively parent today’s kids — and prepare them for the future — we must open our minds, get clear about our values and talk to our kids about their digital engagement.

In this episode, Janet, Jen & Jordan discuss:
  • How parents’ fear of screens can disrupt the parent/child relationship & inhibit child development
  • How our ideas of “healthy behaviors” are based on and influenced by when and where we live
  • What’s really going on when kids are staring at separate screens
  • Parallel digital play
  • How screens can lead to connection (vs. disconnection)
  • How non-techy parents can guide kids through the digital age (hint: it’s all about values)
  • Screens in schools
  • Reading on screens vs reading text — pros and cons
  • Digital note taking vs. hand-written notes — what does the evidence say?
  • Whether or not screens and apps are “manipulating” us
  • How our children internalize our voices and values
Links we mentioned (or should have) in Episode 153:

https://www.jordanshapiro.org/ –– Jordan’s website (includes links to his articles and videos of his talks)

The New Childhood: Raising Kids to Thrive in a Connected World — Jordan’s latest book

‘The New Childhood’ and How Games, Social Media are Good for KidsVariety article that brought Jordan’s book to Jen’s attention

Screens and Boys — On Boys episode 106

iGen – On Boys episode 137

Video Games & Boys (with special guest Greg Wondra) – On Boys episode 108

Tap, Click, Read: Growing Readers in a World of Screens by Lisa Guernsey & Michael H. Levine — book mentioned by Jordan at about 21:30