Tag Archives: emotional development

Paul Tough on What Boys Need to Know About College



How important is college? That’s a fraught question for many families, particularly in an age of rapid technological change and occupational insecurity. We’ve been told that education is the key to success, but post-secondary education is priced like a luxury item, at least here in the U.S. In his new book, The Years That Matter … Continue reading Paul Tough on What Boys Need to Know About College


The Military Wife and Mom with Lauren Tamm



November is Military Family Month. We Americans pause on November 11 to recognize the sacrifices of our veterans. This month, let’s also remember the sacrifices of their families. If you think it’s hard to raise boys, try raising boys in a military environment. Frequent moves and deployments challenge the whole family! Lauren Tamm, creator of … Continue reading The Military Wife and Mom with Lauren Tamm


Steve Biddulph on Raising Boys



Australian author and psychologist Steve Biddulph was one of the first to highlight the unique needs of boys. In the mid-1990s, “Steve went out on a limb to stand up for boys and men in a time when, culturally, the focus was really on girls and women,” Janet says. His books, including The Secrets of … Continue reading Steve Biddulph on Raising Boys


Teaching Boys Respect



What is respect? We tell our boys all the time to “show some respect!” and to “respect your teachers,” and worry about whether or not our boys know how to respect girls and women. But what does that mean? Defining respect, we’ve learned, is trickier than it seems at first glance, and if you and … Continue reading Teaching Boys Respect


Masks We Wear with Ashanti Branch



Our boys often wear metaphorical masks. We all do, in fact. At work, we typically wear our confident, professional faces. At home, we aim for warm, nurturing and competent. But underneath, we may be feeling anger, frustration, sadness or shame. Our “masks” allow us to go about our days and meet our responsibilities without ruffling … Continue reading Masks We Wear with Ashanti Branch


Breaking the Boy Code



The Boy Code. The Man Box. Whatever you want to call it, our boys are constrained by a largely unspoken set of expectations that exert pressure on them to behave and act in certain ways. Jonathon Reed helps boys — and others — understand and question these expectations. His podcast, Breaking the Boy Code, features … Continue reading Breaking the Boy Code


Teaching Boys Social Skills



Boys interact differently than girls do. Sure, some of that is socialization. (A lot of that is probably socialization.) But the fact remains: boys’ interactions on the playground, in school and at home are different than girls’. The way boys greet and play with one another is different than the way girls do so — … Continue reading Teaching Boys Social Skills


Will He Ever Grow Up?!



  When do boys grow up? That question tends to elicit a chuckle; ask it in a group of middle-aged women, and you’re likely to hear someone joke about their not-yet-grown husband. Ask it in a group of men, and well, you’ll hear much the same thing. But to anxious parents, the when do they … Continue reading Will He Ever Grow Up?!


Finding Balance & Handling Disrespect (Listener Q & A)



We recently put out a call for listener questions, and boy, did you send ’em to us! Deanna asked: about the struggle of trying to find the perfect balance of keeping your boys busy enough to stay out of trouble, yet not overscheduled Erin asked us how to handle a “chatty” son who insists he’s … Continue reading Finding Balance & Handling Disrespect (Listener Q & A)


How to Raise a Boy with Michael C. Reichert



  How do you raise boys to become great men? That’s the big question we tackle here at On Boys. It’s the question Jen grapples with in her own home and on BuildingBoys, and the question Janet helps parents and teachers explore and answer through her coaching and online courses. Michael C. Reichert has spent … Continue reading How to Raise a Boy with Michael C. Reichert