Tag Archives: masculinity

Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell



“Middle school,” Phyillis Fagell says, “is a stew of simmering hormones, shifting relationships and increased expectations.” It’s also a time of massive confusion and overwhelm — for middle school boys and their parents. Phyllis Fagell is a school counselor and the author of Middle School Matters: The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive in Middle … Continue reading Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell


The Military Wife and Mom with Lauren Tamm



November is Military Family Month. We Americans pause on November 11 to recognize the sacrifices of our veterans. This month, let’s also remember the sacrifices of their families. If you think it’s hard to raise boys, try raising boys in a military environment. Frequent moves and deployments challenge the whole family! Lauren Tamm, creator of … Continue reading The Military Wife and Mom with Lauren Tamm


Charlie Capen on Fatherhood and Raising Boys



Humor, says Charlie Capen, is one of the most important tools in parenting. But this actor/musician/writer/dad-of-two-boys isn’t afraid to get serious either. Capen is one of the founders of HowToBeADad.com, which he freely admits uses humor as a way to get guys to talk and think about parenting. A generation ago, there were few — … Continue reading Charlie Capen on Fatherhood and Raising Boys


Steve Biddulph on Raising Boys



Australian author and psychologist Steve Biddulph was one of the first to highlight the unique needs of boys. In the mid-1990s, “Steve went out on a limb to stand up for boys and men in a time when, culturally, the focus was really on girls and women,” Janet says. His books, including The Secrets of … Continue reading Steve Biddulph on Raising Boys


“My Boy Can” Parenting



At age 4, Sassy Harvey’s son was told that if he dances, he must be a girl. Or gay.  Not surprisingly, he quit dance class soon after that. It’s 2019. Girls, we know can become astronauts and scientists and ministers and presidents. But boys who dance are STILL routinely perceived as gay and effeminate. In … Continue reading “My Boy Can” Parenting


Masks We Wear with Ashanti Branch



Our boys often wear metaphorical masks. We all do, in fact. At work, we typically wear our confident, professional faces. At home, we aim for warm, nurturing and competent. But underneath, we may be feeling anger, frustration, sadness or shame. Our “masks” allow us to go about our days and meet our responsibilities without ruffling … Continue reading Masks We Wear with Ashanti Branch


Breaking the Boy Code



The Boy Code. The Man Box. Whatever you want to call it, our boys are constrained by a largely unspoken set of expectations that exert pressure on them to behave and act in certain ways. Jonathon Reed helps boys — and others — understand and question these expectations. His podcast, Breaking the Boy Code, features … Continue reading Breaking the Boy Code


145 Masculinity Goes Viral: The APA Guidelines, Gillette Ad & Boys of Covington High School



By now, you’ve probably seen this picture… …and heard about Gillette’s new ad, The Best Men Can Be Maybe you’ve even heard about the American Psychological Association’s Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Boys and Men, which some applaud and some condemn. (Two recent headlines: “Toxic Masculinity is Under Attack. And That’s Fine,” from a left-leaning … Continue reading 145 Masculinity Goes Viral: The APA Guidelines, Gillette Ad & Boys of Covington High School


144: You Asked about Age 14, Implicit Bias and Sensitive Boys (Listener Q & A)



  Our listeners ask the big, important questions! When we put out our most recent call for listener questions, we got some heart-felt, thought-provoking, difficult-to-answer questions. Allison asked how to effectively love and support a young teen: We have a 14 year old boy, and I’m on shifting sands. I’m trying to find balance supporting … Continue reading 144: You Asked about Age 14, Implicit Bias and Sensitive Boys (Listener Q & A)


105: Masculinity in the Age of #MeToo



What is masculinity? It’s a question that’s not easy to answer. But it’s an important one for parents and educators of boys to tackle because the primary question for all boys, is “What is it to be a man?” In this episode, Jen & Janet discuss: So-called “toxic masculinity” & the idea that boys are … Continue reading 105: Masculinity in the Age of #MeToo