All posts by Jennifer L.W. Fink

How to Raise a Boy with Michael C. Reichert



  How do you raise boys to become great men? That’s the big question we tackle here at On Boys. It’s the question Jen grapples with in her own home and on BuildingBoys, and the question Janet helps parents and teachers explore and answer through her coaching and online courses. Michael C. Reichert has spent … Continue reading How to Raise a Boy with Michael C. Reichert


Vaping & E-Cigarette Use: What Parents Need to Know



Nearly 1 in 3 high school seniors tried vaping in the last year.  Middle schoolers are vaping too. According to the Centers for Disease Control, e-cigarette use among middle school students increased by 48% between 2017 and 2018. Now, nearly 5% of middle school students in the United States vape on a regular basis. Kids … Continue reading Vaping & E-Cigarette Use: What Parents Need to Know


Age 16, Teen Driving & Cars



Sweet 16. Here in the United States, age 16 has long been an eagerly anticipated milestone, largely because teens are eligible to get a driver’s license at age 16. In the minds of many teens, age 16 = driver’s license = increased independence. In the minds of many parents, age 16 = increased insurance costs … Continue reading Age 16, Teen Driving & Cars


Raising Kids to Thrive in a Connected World with Jordan Shapiro



Janet & Jen had very different reactions to The New Childhood: Raising Children to Thrive in a Connected World, by author and educator Jordan Shapiro. Jen loved it. Janet has some, uh, questions. And concerns. So, we decided to talk to the author. Jordan was happy to talk with us. He’s an assistant professor at … Continue reading Raising Kids to Thrive in a Connected World with Jordan Shapiro


147 Raising Boys with Amy Joyce of The Washington Post



Over the last year or so, as story after story of men’s misconduct hit the headlines, one question rang out in the hearts, minds and souls of parents: How do we raise boys to become good men?  Boys, we know, are not born evil or prejudiced. We’ve seen their sweetness. We tousle their hair and … Continue reading 147 Raising Boys with Amy Joyce of The Washington Post


141: Best of 2018



As 2018 draws to a close, we reflect back on our first year.  This podcast launched on March 12, 2018. Since then, we’ve recorded 40+ episodes, on everything from tween boy hygiene to how to talk to boys about sex, consent and masculinity in the #MeToo era. We hosted 11 guests, including Warren Farrell (author … Continue reading 141: Best of 2018


137: iGen



  Baby Boomers. Gen X. Millennials. And now, iGen. According to psychology professor Jean Twenge, the members of iGen include the children and young adults born between 1995 and 2012. And what sets these kids apart from previous generations, she says, is their near-constant connection to the Internet. Theirs is a generation shaped by the … Continue reading 137: iGen


132: Risk-Taking Boys with Mom Judi Ketteler



Would you let your 10-year-old son hang out with a bunch of teenagers you haven’t met? Would you let him attempt a double or triple flip in the trampoline in the backyard – or manage his own Instagram account? Writer and mom Judi Ketteler has. In a society that spends so much time telling boys … Continue reading 132: Risk-Taking Boys with Mom Judi Ketteler


131: Emails & Phone Calls from Teachers



How do you respond to phone calls and emails from teachers about your son’s misbehavior? Excerpts of actual emails I’ve received from my son’s teachers: On Tuesday, Sam was sitting in a chair with his legs on a stool, he was flipping it and turning the stool with his legs and feet. I made eye … Continue reading 131: Emails & Phone Calls from Teachers